Like so many teenagers probably feel at times, I had many moments of feeling melancholy and moody. In those moments, and let’s face it I still have them, I listened to sad music. Many times it made me cry and not much has changed. 20 years later and I still find myself gravitating to sad music when I’m feeling melancholy or down. On an instinctual level I think I know that it will tip me over the edge and allow tears to be released where so much of my healing lives.
This article reminded me of my father actually. I distinctly remember a time in my life when he shared that he would no longer listen to sad music. He didn’t want the music to trigger or remind him of sad times in his life and and slip into a sad state of mind. I understood and offered compassion but in many ways I just simply didn’t agree with avoiding feeling our sadness within. My father grew up in foster homes feeling unloved and cared for, struggling through his childhood. Later in life he battled with years of recurrent aortic aneurysms.
When I think back and reflect on his life, I believe it would have benefited him greatly to listen to sad music. To listen and tap into some of those sad moments as a way to release and heal through his tears. In hindsight, I wonder if he had been able to just allow himself to feel and cry more, would he have experienced less illness around his heart.
I say, follow your heart. If it desires sad music, surrender to it and allow yourself to feel the rhythm, the lyrics, the vibrational frequency of each note. Let it seep into your body, have a good cry and trust that it’s not a coincidence that you felt the need to listen to it in the first place.
Take a read click here on why we are drawn to listen to sad music and why we listen when are feeling sad. Enjoy and share your favourite sad songs with us!